I know i keep saying it but my goodness…what a month this has been! Although it has been a difficult one i have also been learning a great deal about the Toddler Twosome and Miss Teen.
I've also been learning about the commitment and love i will need to keep up with Ruby's early intervention activities…which have only just started….but so many appointments to fit in…the occupational therapist, the physio, the speech therapist, the paediatrician, speech playgroup, early intervention playgroup…it has been a little overwhelming for this Mummy who is yet to catch up on the sleep deprivation from when the twins were born (just quietly…i know i'm not alone with that one…it's also my excuse for not losing my baby weight yet though too!!!)
I am so very thankful of course that we have been able to access these services and that i am not currently working so i can fill my diary with all these appointments and actually get there….but goodness i am ready to draw a breath now! There has been little time for sewing, baking, crafting or blogging unfortunately (which are my outlets) but i have to recognise that all those things are not as important as getting Ruby started on this early intervention pathway. I shall share some of the tips we have been getting from the therapists in another post in the hope that they may help someone else. We are mainly working on her sensory and food issues first…i won't lie, it does seem to be a daunting road ahead of us.
The whole family seems to be going through a little growth process at the moment and although a little challenging at times i think it will be good for us all. I'm trying to capture some of these moments and hold them close…others i am letting go for my own sanity sake and trying to keep my sense of humour. Here are some of the lessons i have learnt from my toddler twosome and teen lately…perhaps they resonate with you too!
1. A Toddler's mood can change at any moment throughout the day….and they don't need to provide a reason (even though Mummy asks repeatedly…'.what's wrong now cherub'..ahem.. or words to that effect…)
2. The toddler twosome do not believe in quiet days because Mummy is a little fraught right now…
3. Miss Teen will need to be dropped off to a work shift, picked up from a work shift, dropped off to the movies/friends house/party and then picked up on the same day/night most weekends. I am now coming around to the idea of her getting her license soon…
4. Miss Teen will continually remind me how old we will be by the time the twins are her age….apparently this is hilarious. I'm yet to see the humour myself.
5. Twin toddlers will organise amongst themselves so that one is always having a bad day/week/teething/sick/grumpy/sad/not sleeping and the other is healthy and having a great day/sleep times….there may be room for both to embrace a bad day or night….but never, never an easy day together. I wonder how they keep track sometimes….it's uncanny, perhaps there are minutes.
6. The toddler ‘everything is mine' rule becomes even scarier when there are 2 toddlers….i was the parent who said they would never feel the need to buy 2 of everything just because we had twins…she has left the building now.
7. A teen can simultaneously watch tv, play on iPod, chat on facebook and do homework….but they can't multitask in the same way with chores….odd isn't it?
8. The toddler twosome can function quite well with one hand on Mummy at all times throughout the day…it has come to my attention that Mummy can not and does not handle these days with her usual patience and grace…..
9. Toddlers can find the most ingenious places to leave food that is often found only during the once a week cleanup (we won't discuss those weeks that the clean doesn't occur…) Actually…this also applies to the teen!
10. No matter how safe you think you have made your house or how many climbing ‘tools' you have removed….the toddler twosome will find a way to climb up to that place where you put everything for safekeeping a day earlier after they found your last spot. We now live with all our dining rooms chairs in the spare room and have taken to eating dinner on the floor….just easier that way really and the dog has proven herself a great vacumn! Miss Teen will display bouts of frustration when her belongings have been relocated yet again because she didn't keep them in her room (i want to say i told you so at this moment but i am a better parent than that of course…)
11. I have also learnt though that no matter how big the mess, how stressful the day, how many tears are shed or kilometres racked up on Mum's taxi…those hugs and kisses seem to fix it all……until tomorrow of course!